Honestly I have always been what may be considered popular… not super popular. But known enough that people who I can barely place a name to remembers my name, age and vital info. And no it is not because I was cute, but because I was and am pleasant… people like that. I always had a circle of friends and to be honest I have always thought highly of myself and my friends to think that we were hip. I think that had a lot to do with it. We thought we were cool. Well ok and we were kind of cute too!
Anyway, the reason I am even on this popular trip is because I have witnessed my neighbour’s ‘naughty’ little daughter reject my two so many times that it is hurtful to me. I hate that they are not yet considered cool or so interesting that they are always welcomed. Now they are both too young to fully understand what is going on, but I think soon my daughter who is ridiculously shy would soon figure it out. I just want to shelter them, smother them with hugs and kisses and properly scold the little naughty girl, but I know that will not solve anything. I know this is just a part of it and sometimes children are just plain mean… even though they probably don’t intend to be mean. I know that this is something that all parents have to tossle with especially if one or all of their children are shy or ‘different’… I stumbled across a blog on ivillage, which coincidentally was kind of about the same thing. I copied the url below.
It is heartwrenching to know that friendship is a totally personal thing and it is not something or lack there of that I can protect them from or influence. I could only pray very hard that they will always feel secure in themselves and not require others to make them feel whole. And yet know that joy of being accepted and loved for who you are.
Hope the week is not too wet whereever you are! It’s raining cats and dogs here!!