I am trying out a new look. I think I am going for Christmas colours it is interesting albeit quite RED!!
I have been thinking alot lately about friends and coincidentally I have read two really uplifting blogs on this same topic. One from my favourite blog haunt tysley and the other from favourite blog haunt weimie.
From a long time ago I learnt that God puts people in our lives to fulfill a reason or purpose. And when their purpose has been fulfilled then they move on. And there are people-friends who will be with you for as long as you live because that is their purpose.
I notice this when I first moved to Miami to go to college there. I moved in with an old friend and her roommate. My roommate only roomed with us for four months but within that time she was amazing with all the settling information that she shared and the friend base that she included me in. She basically showed me the workings of the school, set me up with ‘friends’ and then moved on. I also had a male friend, who in retrospect may have been interested in being more than friends, but he was great, brilliant and fun he helped me study, we had too many quarters parties (this is this ridiculous game that is clearly designed to get all and sundry DRUNK!!) he basically helped me transition into college life and then he moved all the way to California to pursue his dream of acting (did I mention he was dreamy :)) They were both there for a reason- to help me settle in. My old friend who I moved in with in the first place is still there clearly she is stuck with me until the end LOL
I have been having to think on this again as another one of my friends plans on leaving ‘ME" …okay being silly …as another one of my friends plans to pursue her dreams outside of Jamaica. Over the last two years I have had two friends whom I have been close to and depended on for some reason or another migrate to another country. One as far away as Abu Dhabi. (I didn’t even know where that was it sounded like something out of Star Wars!)
Now I have always been slow to make friends so it has been extra sad for me losing the closeness of a friend in a land where the only family I have is my husband’s and the one that we have made together. I have found that when a friend leaves that role although altered abit is filled by someone else usually without you even noticing that it has happened.
So even though I know this all and I wish my friend all the best when she leaves, because honestly she has been dreaming about this for all the eight years that I have been in Jamaica, I still feel a bit sad, but know that it will be cool in the end.
And as we are on friends that have moved on there are so many in blogland that have gone missing and I do miss visiting them and there are those who are there but can’t do the walk as much and I miss them too. Blogging has helped me realize that friends come in all different forms and even though they may not be here physically they are no less of a friend.
So even though I have revealed myself as self-centered , by thinking it is all about me. I am happy to have had the experience of friends who have come and gone, those who still stick by me and those who I am yet to met all who help to make it all about me LOL
Happy Thanksgiving to all those who celebrate this holiday! Please have a piece of pumpkin pie for me.
And for my friends in Jamaica maybe I’ll make brownies 🙂